Huddy - you are acting perfectly! I am so very pleased you did not offer to hang the blinds for her. As a female, I can verify your suspicion that she was hoping for an offer. Good for you to not break down and do it!
You are pleasant, kind, and helpful...you're just moving on. It's probably driving her absolutely insane! Now she's texting and coming around? I believe that you are correct in imagining that the reality is very different than W's daydream about how all this D was going to play out. LOL
I think you're in for a wait yet - but she hasn't dropped the rope holding you, for sure! I'm using you for inspiration. I've fought, I've begged, I've pleaded. Now I'm just letting it happen, while taking care of myself to the best of my ability. Lo and behold, something is changing in H!
Not sure what it is, exactly, he's kinder, more patient...something is truly different. Maybe guilt is kicking in? Who knows? All I know for certain at this point, is that I won't go back to what we had. No matter how long it takes, I'm just going to keep working on becoming the best version of myself I can, while he's off flitting about searching for his "happiness".
I won't relent or back down in any way until the day he shows up with true remorse, and is willing to do whatever I want to make our next M a success. I'll insist on MC. Wow. That's really hard. LOL
Truly, he's done some truly awful things that will have to be discussed at some point if we're ever going to be together again. I don't think it's safe to talk about those things without a MC present. Too much emotional trauma to deal with; to attempt to address it without a counselor present would be a disaster.
Have you thought about what you would require if your W were to suddenly have a change of heart? What will she need to do in order to prove she's serious? Knowing that this always takes way longer than we want it to, what are you going to be working on in the meantime?
