I've read you and Fogg and while I see your point of only being with one person , please believe even if you have been with lots of ladies , the W is the one you really loved and cherished and it's just as tough for the rest of us.
Rd, I didn't mean to say the loss of our spouses hurts more since we only loved 1 person instead of many. The pain from losing the one we love is crippling for all of us. What I'm referring to is fear and only fear. Just like A's generally have nothing to do with love neither does this. We have no experience with other women so we can't detach our lives from our S. To lose them would be to lose ourselves, we know nothing else. It's an enmeshed relationship.
And ghost, I already see your train of thought thinking you have to find a new woman to remove that fear. You already said as much in another post and that's 100% wrong. It's still the fear controlling you.
Stop worrying about being alone in the future, you are now. Right now you are alone. It doesn't matter if your W is in the same house, that's a false sense of security you keep telling yourself.
Live your own life and find pleasure in it or keep being miserable and taking for granted what you do have.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
