Okay, first of all, do not go looking for a new partner just to get your mind off your W. ------------------------------------------------ Now, that is out of the way, let's get back to your old sitch. You have told us you are confused by the information you receive. You have told us, repeatedly, how completely shattered you think you'll be if you get divorced. So, my question for you is how can we help? Instead of you going back over all this old stuff that we have already heard......tell us what to do to help you.
I have asked questions, as well as have others, that never are answered. I am not sure if you don't see it, ignore it, or simply don't know how to answer the question. For example, when on your trip with the boys, I asked you why were you avoiding calling home b/c of the probability of your W answering. I was trying to see what was in your brain about this. What did you think you were doing......b/c I believe you saw this action as detaching, or perhaps something else.
You can help us know how to help you if you will discuss the reason behind your actions.....instead of ignoring the questions and talking about your feelings. Can you do work with us on that, so we will better know how you are interpreting the advice you receive.
