I had to stop going out as I can no longer afford it. At the moment I'm on holidays and have way too much time on my hand to think about H! I'm with the kids all days apart Saturday when they are with their dad.
For NYE I have friends coming around, they are all with partners but they are good fun. What about you Gmum?
Rouky if I have to swim to England I can promise you that you are not going to be alone. you are a beautiful girl both inside and out and there are a lot of us guys out here who are dying to find someone like you. You just have to get to a healthier place and keep an open mind and it will happen. Keep trying to detach and keep working with your therapist. I suggest that you should do everything possible to keep from laying eyes on your husband. I know how tough that will be with your custody situation but try to be busy with something else when he comes for the children. I know that there are guys trying to catch your eye because that is what we do. Let yourself have a little fun with the boys and maybe flirt a little. Get something in your head besides that loser of a husband. He was lucky to have you and you are the prize in that relationship. Gmum, Ancaire help me here. We are going to take care of you Rouky. You are going to be fine and we are going to be here until you don't need us any more.
Wear something pretty today and fix your hair and makeup and put on something that smells good. Obsession drives me wild! Be the smoking hot girl that you are and wear a smile and drive some boy crazy! I love you Rouky and everything is going to be OK.
M:53 W:47 M:15 years. S:18 S's: 30 & 28 from previous marriage. BD: 3/14 Divorced January 17.
Shotgun you are so kind. You are spot on about my contact with H. When I don't see him, I'm fine but it's when I see him that it all goes wrong. I feel that being in the marital home doesn't help as I can't stop him from accessing the house. I can't wait to sell it now :-)!
Funny as H is no longer pushing for the sale. Maybe OW is pushing for him to buy a house together once ours is sold.
I do my best to look nice every day ( nice clothes, make up and perfume). I live in a small town so many people know me because of my job or because of whom I am married to, so it makes it a bit harder to flirt.
I know I'll be fine once I'm back at work and the festive season out of the way. I knew this time of year would be hard but I wasn't expecting it to be such a step back!
I know what you mean Rouky about a step back. I was doing really well right up to Christmas day. I was happy and enjoying the season and my friends and family and then wham. I am still digging my way out and it is four days later. Now I am dreading New Years Eve and how much fun my wife will be having without me. That will not change where I am and how far I have come though.
I too am in a small town and constantly run into people who remind me of my problems. I have to try to avoid the places that she frequents and the gym where she works out. I know that I am better when I don't have to look at her. Also her family is reaching out to me and trying to have a relationship with me and that makes it hard.
Rouky I know that I have a lot of advantages in this that you don't have but I know that you can do it. All I have to do is read one of your posts and I get stronger and my faith grows. Together we will survive this and will go on to something better.
As for the flirting I would not be let your connection to your husband affect your having fun. I'm sure that if your town is anything like mine then everyone already knows what an idiot he is. Get your a$$ out there and shake it! This is about you now and how you are going to enjoy life. I would drag you out and make you have fun if I could but there is some cute guy over there who will do the same thing. If not a guy then a girlfriend!
Come on Rouky let's pick ourselves up and finish this year and jump off into the new one. We can do this, me with your help and you with mine. Here for you always.
M:53 W:47 M:15 years. S:18 S's: 30 & 28 from previous marriage. BD: 3/14 Divorced January 17.
