Hi Ghost. I appreciate the Xmas wishes. I have been sceptical of your posts but Sandi ( as usual ) made me look at it differently. ( as did Fogg ).
Can I ask if you accept the M is over ? Because it is. A new M may be possible but it's months and more likely years away
I can't begin to compare to Sandis advice but I will add my thoughts. W is gone , that's really sad and a huge blow for you It is reality though so you can accept that or not.
Imagine the divorce is final and now you have to move on What's next ???
You have to sell family home and rent or buy somewhere else , so start looking.
Carry on as if W is done for ever and now do what's best for you and your kids because that's the reality for now
I've read you and Fogg and while I see your point of only being with one person , please believe even if you have been with lots of ladies , the W is the one you really loved and cherished and it's just as tough for the rest of us.
Love is love and we all held our WAS as the " the one " otherwise we would not be here
I still analyse and look for signs but I have accepted M is over. It's a big step but a needed one.
