The funeral will not take place until the New Year so I want to detach from W a little and see if she pursues me a little.
In what way do you mean "detach from W"? Unless you fully understand DBing detachment (and so many guys do not get it), then I think you should be very careful here.
If you come across as being a little cold and/or unsupportive during one of the most critical times in a person's life (losing a parent), she will never forget it and may never forgive you.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
