Wow LouR, I am so very impressed by how you handled your holiday. After all that you have been through, I was wondering how you would show restraint through it all. But you leaped beyond that and showed him such compassion. Amazing!
I am sure there were many times you were tempted to do lots of other things with that duct tape: give your h a full body wax, tape him and leave him to a tree, etc. The possibilities are endless.
What an amazing job you did of making him feel safe and loved. You are a good woman, LouR. And yes, I am sure he left with warm memories.
By the way, I am just curious if your h has yet indicated that he knows what happened to him? I know he is seeing a therapist. Has he hinted that this was a MLC or even a weird depression? I know he has told you that he is trying to figure out why he made the decisions he made but I am not sure he has pinned a name to it all?
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
