I suppose that if I knew that she would come through this and want to R I would react differently.
Would you say that is acting "as if"?
Could you let her go, if you knew she would come back once she got through this journey she's on?
As time goes by, I find it fascinating at how so many LBH'S think alike. You are not alone by thinking you could handle it a lot better if you just knew the outcome.
Anyway, I just wanted to throw it out there. I don't know that it's all that healthy to act as if she'll eventually come back. That is up to you. If it helps you cope, that's the important thing. If it helps you to get your undivided attention off her and the MR for a while, then it might help in other ways, too.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
