Your W is not obliged to stay. She can release those shackles as easy if not easier than you. I too feel like breaking the shackles and even throwing, hem and the rest of this crap away. And maybe one day we will have to do just that. But we must do it for us. Our situations are not healthy for us but it is a path we must travel. You have good company on your path and it will stand to you. I look forward to seeing where V's questions/help leaf you. I am even a little excited for you.

Happy thoughts


R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together