She's thinking of leaving again2

[Sotto]

Hi Scrant, I'm glad you had a good break with your folks. Now, you are doing very well, but all of the wondering above sounds a bit backtracky to me.

Your W hasn't been in touch since you sent her a photo of S, you bought things and sent them to her, you're wondering whether to send her a card, should you arrange a family get together - No!! My Pursuit alert buzzer is going off.....

I would stop right there. For your W's B'day, you could do one of two things - simple text - Happy B'day W - have a good day! - or simple card, with nothing schmaltsy in it at all.

Apart from that, wrench your focus off of this woman - who is someone else's girlfriend - and start making plans for 2016. What lovely things are you going to get yourself involved in this coming year? Plan them and tell us all about them. Leave your W on the back burner - there's nothing much you can do WRT her whilst the A remains active anyway...

Take care my friend & you are doing very well (despite my comments above) - just want to keep you on track - remember - street walkin' cheetah with napalm in your pocket - as former poster Defacto would have said xx