Coming to the end of the family visit and thinking ahead to New Year. I've already declined the invitation to the birthday lunch but I'm wondering if I should send a card or just join in the general social media congrats as one person more? We haven't heard from W since Xmas day when I sent her a photo of S. I haven't asked S if he has received more messages since. It's been good to get away these days and my parents have been very kind in offering me support for the future but now it is time to go back and get past New Year and birthday. In W's country we also give presents on 6th as well. This year I bought a couple of things for S and sent them to her to give. I don't think that I'll arrange a time to give them together. If she wants she can have breakfast with him, he'll know that the presents were from me as well and I don't need to be there. Or should I arrange for the three of us to be a family and eat together? Would she see the difference between that and her birthday? Or better to steer clear?
