The best book I read post-D was How to be an Adult in Relationships. Highly recommended. Also the Five Love Languafes by Chapman. For a few years after my divorce I kept ending up with men who were unavailable for one reason or another (all lovely men, don't get me wrong, just not able to be full partners). It took me a while to realize that I was choosing them because it was ME that wasn't ready for a real relationship yet. Once I was finally ready to take that leap, the right guy appeared.
Take your time, don't introduce your kids, remember that dating is about a process to find out IF you're a match....not everyone will be. Don't rush it.
