Wife wants to separate at end of school year

[Bhuda1]

I had to go back and read the 180 thread again as I lost focus on what I truly need to do for my 180.

Working out. For too long I have ignored the weight room we have downstairs. An injury has taken away my will to work out. Instead of lounging around the house, I will take part of my evening downtime and get back in shape.

Neatness. I used to gather clothes on the chair in the bedroom, kept my dresser untidy leaving change, receipts and other objects scattered all over the dresser. I have kept my space clean and organized,

Although in the past I have done a share of the housework, I have always asked my spouse what she would like me to do. Now I just do it. She hates cleaning the bathrooms. I now clean the bathrooms without being prompted. While I am at it I also find my self cleaning other areas of the house as well as completing other household chores.

I would like some advice on an area in our daily routine that I needs to be addressed. My wife and I are both self employed. Every weeknight I get home early to prepare dinner, she gets home, dinner is ready, kitchen is cleaned, dishes are either washed or in washing machine. I want to tell her that it's about time that she frees up at least two nights a week to get dinner ready so I can work later. Due to the present arrangement, I postpone client appointments to later in the evening after I prepare dinner. I then drive back to my office to meet clients and sometimes not returning home until after 10 pm. How should I approach her on this subject. Do I tell her that this is what I want or ask if she can respect my job enough to free time up for preparing dinner.

A total 180 on this would be for me to work late every night as she has done for the past 10 years at least. I just want her to be home early for the kids once in a while.

The most important 180 I am working on is quitting smoking. I smoked when we first met. Quit when my first son was born but started to smoke secretly when our relationship problems started. I tried my best to hide it from my wife but I knew she was suspicious. I told her the truth and she was appreciative for my honesty.
This is proving to be tougher than the last time I quit but I know I can do it again.

As time goes by I will figure out other areas of my life where a 180 can come into play.