We all have been there reading one of the success stories and feel that sitch isn't as hopeless as our own. It's just the perspective of it being our own pain, our own suffering that makes it feel that way. Any sitch could be a success story and theres hope for all. There are no guarantees of R even if you follow DB so we do need to accept things may be over for good, but don't let that discourage you. With or without them if you follow the DB principles you will be a success story one way or another.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
