Have you tried DB coaching? I'm finding it very helpful, and you might too at this important juncture. If he is willing to work on it, there's hope. That's good. They can help you move this along.
Have you read Divorce Remedy? It's my bible these days.


11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker
Reconciling since late April 2016
Don't give up until it's time, then move on
Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat