Thanks for this post V. I have detached in one other situation in my life. My father is an alcoholic so that was tough for a while.
Detaching from my wife is very difficult as I am sure it is for anyone. I understand the concept but it is hard to implement. It is an emotional state rather than an action plan like no contact etc. I think no contact, in my case, still helps with detachment based on my passed experience. At least my wife helps me in the process and doesn't send many mixed signals. I'll have to find sandi's post on it as well.
I was pretty gung ho on pushing for the D come the first of the year but I guess I will give it a bit more time. I'll focus on myself and my goals for the new year for a bit. I guess I can look into selling the house without this being resolved. I can see if my wife's sudden change in her contact pattern was the result of the holidays or whether it is something different. I'll just sit back and observe for a bit.
