My wife of seven years is filing for divorce, and I cannot blame her. During our marriage I have been sometimes verbally and physically abusive, I never hit her, but I know pushing is just as bad. I have sought help for my anger problem and am currently going through Anger management therapy and I have also given my life to God and have joined a mens accountibilty/support group called Man to Man. I guess I need advice and answers to some questions.
Is it possible for a woman to find her way back to loving somebody that hurt them badly? I don't really know what went wrong in our marriage, mainly why I started the verbal and physical stuff. In my first marriage I wasn't like that, oh sure, she and I yelled at each other, but I never laid a finger on her. Why with this one did I start? I love my current wife so much that it hurts and I never ever stopped loving her even when things were really bad. I am getting help mainly for myself as I realize that I cannot be like I was and hope to have a healthy, meaningful relationship with someone if I do not change. But, I do not want anyone else but my wife, I don't need her, I just want her, there is a difference.
Do women really believe that a man can change, if he's truly repentant? I recognize and aknowledge the fact that I am were I am due to my own actions.
I just cannot stand the fact that our family is going to be torn apart, we have two daughters ages 4 years and 8 mos, and I really love all three of the ladies in my life and cannot stand the fact that I may not see them every night, or worse yet, that another person may help my wife raise them. My wife is a wonderful, beautiful and vibrant woman, and it kills me that I have basically crushed her spirit. We are both in our mid 30's and I feel that anyone we meet after and if this divorce goes through will already have kids as well (more than likely) and I want my own family, not someone elses. I know I can't make my wife love me again, but I was just wondering if it is possible for her to maybe find her way back to me and hopefully forgive me, if not forget.
"Anyone who is among the living, has hope." (Eccl 9:4)
