Hi Gmum, A wise friend shared this with me last night. She has been through some very rough times, too. It's simple. Forget about tomorrow; it's gone. Don't worry about tomorrow, it's not here yet. And today? Today I'm OK. Today we ARE OK. I hope you can remember that. I'm not one for simplistic sayings, but I think this one helps.
I also want you to know that sometimes things turn around. Read this post:http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Main=58607&Number=2634807#Post2634807 It's called New Here and Desperate to Save My Marriage The woman posting went to see her husband after a long time of no contact, and he was happy to see her. Most of the things she thought he was doing and thinking turned out to be not true. And he (says he) called the OW and told her not to come for Christmas. I don't know what's happening for them now, but my point is, that DBer is maybe getting another chance. Hopefully we can too. I'm NYGal (not to be confused with NYCGal!) I'm over on a post called Rollercoaster ride and I could sure use some words of wisdom, too. All the best to you, Gmum. They say it gets better.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
