It does not imply judgement or condemnation of the person or situation from which we are detaching.
Separating ourselves from the adverse effects of another person’s adiction or behaviour can be a means of detaching: this does not necessarily require physical separation.
Detachment can help us look at our situations realistically and objectively. Adiction is a family disease.
Living with the effects of someone else’s addiction is too devastating for most people to bear without help.
In our twelve step group we learn nothing we say or do can cause or stop someone else’s behaviour.
We are not responsible for another person’s disease, addiction, behaviour or recovery from it.
Detachment allows us to let go of our obsession with another’s behavior and begin to lead happier and more manageable lives, lives with dignity and rights, lives guided by a Power greater than ourselves.
We can still love the person without liking the behavior.
WE LEARN:
Not to suffer because of the actions or reactions of other people
Not to allow ourselves to be used or abused by others in the interest of another’s recovery •
Not to do for others what they can do for themselves •
Not to manipulate situations so others will eat, go to bed, get up, pay bills, be addicted or not addicted, or behave as we see fit. We allow the other their choices
Not to cover up for another’s mistakes or misdeeds
Not to create a crisis
Not to prevent a crisis if it is in the natural course of events
We let go of the outcome of our actions, we do that which is best for us whilst considering others.
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Last edited by Vanilla; 12/27/1506:38 PM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
