I agree, Fo. They need to work it out. But, when I was in a much darker place, I encouraged them to hate him. I'm not proud of it - but when they would say something negative, I would be there cheering them on.
My letter was an apology, for all of it (the catastrophic mess after BD) that I was responsible for. I wanted to let them off the hook in case they were avoiding H for my sake. I think two of them were, because as soon as they received that letter, H was suddenly welcome, that night, to something that had been planned for weeks.
I feel better. I needed to attempt to clean up MY mess. I'm done now, though. The rest is up to H.
