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[Mona52]

Mona, you said this:

A good wife would know what he needs before he knows he needs it and just get it done for him.

That really sounds more like what a wayward spouse says! You mentioned a friend clued you in about one aspect of this, which is people don't want to not have to work for something. But another thing is that this is mindreading and completely unrealistic. A healthy relationship is when each person knows how to ask for what they want and to ask the other if there is anything they need.

So true! I expected myself to know what he wanted. I am so glad you posted this, because I think in the last few weeks I have been trying even harder to guess what people want and try and give it to them, when i should be focusing on telling people what I need. Thanks Flight!