Time to make changes

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Joss

try to keep expectations low
if you want to become friends and work on some changes do them for you
He will notice,,and its a place to start
but it will most likely take time especially if it is a real MLC
The changes you make will be part of you forever, so if you have not been a great listener you can practice validating him

but also have your own life gal
work on finding new activities
try to not focus it all on him

if the new behavior brings him closer great
but if he is continuing to date online, you may want to also allow him to know what his life will be like without you
he can't have it both ways
but In my opinion its a start to see if anything will move in direction of reconciliation ..if not you can always change behavior again
good luck