Well...I don't think I have to worry about DBing anymore. why? DBing was never a trick to getting your W to quickly change her mind. It is an incredibly long process of self discovery and self improvement. What does any of the rest of this have to with being done DBing?
I think we are probably officially done. do you want to be done?
I did several really stupid things today.
First, while my wife and kids are out of town, I went over and got our hidden outside key and went in the house and snooped. I found a letter written to a man in my wife's bedside table. why did you feel the need to do this? What did you expect to find?
Then I called her and told her. REALLY? What the heck did you expect to happen? Of COURSE she's going to be livid.
She says it was only an emotional affair and it only happened after we were separated. so? She's probably lying. Either way, does it matter?
But it really doesn't matter. What's weird is, even though I'm hurt, in a way, I'm fine. I know that I can let go now. She is so super pissed at me, and well, rightfully so. But boy did she get nasty on the phone. well at least there's that. Time to let go. Detach. GAL.
Threatening to try to take the kids from me, and to fight me over every single aspect of the financial situation, and just on and on. And the funny thing is, I knew, and have been afraid of leaving her for years because of that very reason. Her parents are going to join in, and they will all work together to paint me in the worst possible light they can. And then try to take everything they can from me, just out of spite. let her spew from now. But invading "her" house wasn't a great move. Time to protect your kids and your finances.
