Wife wants to separate at end of school year

[Bhuda1]

I have decided to keep quiet for the time being. Looking closely at my past actions, I realized that when my emotions were at the similar state they are in now, I would confront my spouse and the results were never to favourable.

There is a movie playing at the theatres right now that we both have interest in seeing. We decided to go see it together within the next week. Part of me is hoping she will commence some type of relationship dialogue when we are alone together.

I must admit I am confused that she is looking to do some Boxing Day shopping for home improvement items. I am confused as to why she is willing to put the effort in if her plans have not changed. Is this a sign that she may be willing to work things out?

I am frustrated because she never expressed her unhappiness and her resentment towards me verbally until the bomb was dropped. I was not oblivious to her feelings, I just wish she would have come forward sooner instead of keeping her true feelings inside.

I made the mistake of trying to get her to open up in the past. After further reflection, this action on my part was ill advised. Unfortunately, if I never started the relationship conversation, I would never know her Mindset.

I am struggling with keeping quiet and detaching myself from her. I am failing at doing the 180. I fear that my 180 will prompt my children to notice that our marriage is not all sunshine and roses. How can I truly detach and do a 180 without causing an adverse effect on my children?