I wouldn't have sent him an angry text. I would have let it go because they crave attention, be it negative or positive and yes, you basically gave him the entire kibble on a silver platter by texting him. Learn to ignore his texts unless it's something of importance.
Couldn't agree more. Think of it this way: each time you respond to the reaching out, you'll prolong it. What I mean is that if you respond, he'll know you'll respond and will continue. Next time you're angry or otherwise impacted by his reaching out all these years later, just don't respond. If you want to, think of it as prolonging the interactions. Is that what you want?
After a while, they will go away (mostly) but you won't be affected. They'll focus on something else.
Silence sends the most emphatic message. Telling them to stop doesn't work.
Get back to your Merry Christmas. It's nice and warm in NC (although I have no idea what it's like in the mountains; just where I am) and a good night for watching the full moon.
Go enjoy!
Merry Christmas!
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
