[AJM]

Hi Bright. Merry Christmas!
I'm always a fan of traditions. I think they are a part of life that makes it better. Glad you kept to it!

I realized that if I need things to get moving, I have to do it myself.

My dear, that's always been the case. You know by now that your friends mean well and are angry. You also know that your H love you all those years. Nobody, and I mean nobody, keeps that up for that long without you knowing.

You also know that you have always had the majority of power in this conversation. It's always been that way. It may not be what you asked for, but you have always held the majority of power in this dynamic.

I'm quite sure that your friend was right when he said you were the best thing to happen to H. I can tell by your actions and compassion

You'll sort things out. I have no doubt you'll do it with kindness and compassion. I suspect your H may be the only person on the planet that will say otherwise, but that's on him and it's only a point in time he can reference until/if he gets his head out of his a**. It's not pleasant, but it is something you'll do when you're ready.

Merry Christmas!

AJ