Heather - painful as it is, if he can recognize that there are two plans, and even differentiate A from B, then he is making a choice "to be stuck."

Guess this is why we are told to watch the actions and mute the words. Don't drink the "woe is me Kool-Aid."

Happy holidays to you and your girls.

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced