Struggling

[Imlucky]

Its hard to say i know communication was an issue there was a lot of arguing in the end. Most of it was about issues built up over time so it never got resolved


She hasn't really explained anything she has been on and off since we sold our house and organised our own living arrangements
When i go to counselling she always asks me what we talk about and issues im working on for myself

When i see or talk to her theres no anger and she will say things like she notices changes in my behaviour and misses me and im a good guy. The last time we talked she said she needed things to go slow and then she didn't know if she could do this ?

I acknowledged her statement and agreed to leave her be until she decides to talk to me

I think an i need to work on detachment and work on not trying to fix her issues im getting better at looking after my own behaviour. Thats something i can control i act happy when she sees me i haven't asked about our relationship or future. She hasn't mentioned divorce its all very up in the air

My counsellor has given me good feedback about progess she can see and has told me to focus on me that ive told my wife i want us to work and now its time to just work on goals for the future and if she wants me then i need to set boundaries so i dont go backwards on my learning and changes

Brad