Thank you Zues126. I have definitely been doing things to make me a better person. Working out and running have been a great stress reliever and therefore enables me to be a better dad. I don't think she's having an EA anymore, but who really knows. I do know that when she makes up her mind, she puts these emotional walls up that are damn near impossible to break through, so I'm not even going there. I'm just working on me as the book suggests.
I'm having a hard time doing, as the book says, putting on a happy face all the time. I'm pissed at her for threatening to break up our family, knowing how much it's going to hurt our kids. That's a hard thing to put in my back pocket. But I know that doing anything but is going to remind her of why she's making the threat of leaving in the first place. So I'm working on it.
Today she said, "Love you, have a good day." Then quickly followed it up with an, "Oops, sorry." (referring to the "Love you" comment. She so screwed up that she doesn't know what she even wants so she sends all of these mixed signals.
Also, we are still living together and taking care of the kids together. She acts like everything is fine and asks me to do things around the house, says she needs help with various things throughout the day/night. Whether that be bathing the kids, or helping with the kids while she cooks a meal, putting stuff in the laundry, etc. Am I not supposed to help out with these things anymore? Would I not be just pushing her further away if I stop doing these things? Plus I know my kids would suffer if I didn't help out because she would get stressed out and be short tempered with them. This is a really tough situation.
