Thank you SO much to everyone who has responded, you guys are my lifeline right now. It's much more appreciated and helpful than I could ever put into words.
I'm sorry I haven't had time to respond, still don't, H will be back soon. Was just out with D running a few last sec errands, checked the account and the one he doesn't realize I can see, and I could tell that he made a payment at the court house. That means he did file for divorce like he said and he did it with our D. So classy.
Merry Christmas to all of you. I think H moves out again tomorrow, that'll give me time to respond and hit other pals threads.
Ps: Don't watch Ted 2 with your WH/WW. Aaaawwwkward!!! Lotta divorce talk.