1. I got fired 6 months, she moved out 5 months ago. She has had 5 full months to see exactly what life is without me (again btw). I have not interfered.
Is anyone enabling her to live this lifestyle outside her M? Are her parents giving her financial and emotional support?
The more support she has, and the less consequences she has........the longer it may take before she begins to yearn for her former life with you. At this time, she's experiencing what she wanted, supposedly.
I have seen couples separated two years before getting back together. It took Mr. Bond's W four years to get through her process. In comparison, 5 months isn't very long. You know how long you can continue, however, I would caution you to not place weight of a "new year" on the deciding scales.
I understand you are very tired, and emotionally worn out. Personally, I would be pretty aggravated at the whole ordeal, but let me remind you that getting D is not necessarily the medicine for what hurts you. Be sure of yourself and examine your reasons closely.
I see a lot of men who have this same mindset, so maybe it's a "man thing", IDK. They feel that they can't let go and move forward unless they get a D, or they think getting a D will make them move on.
MWD suggests you do one final step before calling it quits. She refers to it as the last resort after the LRT. To me, it is the true picture of going dark. In other words, go ahead with your life as if you will never see her again. Now, everyone has their personal opinions about dating, so you do however your beliefs dictate. Live your life as if the M is over, b/c this one is.
Some people say M is just a piece of paper. If so, then divorce is on the other side of that same piece of paper.
Anyway, just take this advice for whatever it's worth.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
