Hi Tfish - that is great that you will be working off stress on your treadmill! Physical activity helps so much.

As sad as it is that your H is making these choices, they are HIS choices. It is good that you are distancing yourself from all that as best you can.

All the things you are doing with your kids are wonderful! Continue to keep yourselves busy and make the home cheerful for you and the kids. Play music, games, bake, etc.

Be that pillar for you and your kids. Enjoy the holidays with your children.

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced