Gmum, I am so sorry you're so glum. I read every word you wrote about what H said to you. Do you realize how similar it is to the script each and every one of us gets? I suspect you want to blame it all on yourself because H does, but please don't go down that route! Look at all the progress you've made. Don't go back to square one.
Maybe he does need out for now. Maybe he feels he has to see where the R with OW leads - I just know I've heard it over and over again on these boards. It's script. He's justifying his bad decision by putting the blame on you. While you had a hand in the M, you alone are not responsible for the breakdown. That is solely H's decision. He's leaving his wife and D for OW! How is that your fault?
It's not. Come on, cheer up, and focus on what you need to do to take care of yourself. Become a strong confident woman he will think twice about leaving. You can do this!
In case I don't get back later, I want to be sure and wish you a Merry Christmas!
