Gwen, Your New Year's resolution sounds perfect. Focus on the present and allow the future to unfold when it's ready. Don't rush it. Enjoy each and every minute you spend w/your girls and yes, each and every day as well.
Merry Christmas to you and your family.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.