Hi Rouky, I can only post from my own experience. We always split Xmas day - SS's mum would spend Xmas morning & lunch with him - then we'd pick him up and open pressies etc in the pm.

I think it's best to put any desire to ''make him feel the loss' to one side & have a look at what's going to be the best arrangement for the kids..I know it's not an ideal situation. But I think if you keep that as your compass, that's the best way I think...

Hope you can agree a way forward & have a good day tomorrow.

Take care xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus