Lisa, for me, it isn't the act of snooping that is degrading. It is the fact that I can be reassured by doing it? That my H has so little respect for me or our marriage that I am looking for receipts, texts, etc. He deserves to be snooped on. IMO he lost all rights to privacy. But for me anyway, I feel degraded that its even a possibility that there is evidence to find. That my security and mental well being can be bought off so easily as him leaving his phone out unattended? I don't know if I am expressing this correctly. Its not the snooping. It's the fact that he put me in the position of needing this reassurance so desperately. I did snoop in the beginning. I refuse to now. I would just rather not trust him. Maybe I am messed up. You are getting advice from someone who most likely will end up divorced, so take it for what it is worth. But I don't not snoop because it is wrong, I don't snoop because I can't be bought off that easily.
