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[Mona52]

I was talking to a friend a few weeks ago. I was saying that I should have been more attentive to my H's needs. I said "A good wife would know what he needs before he knows he needs it and just get it done for him."

My friend looked at me like I was crazy. She said, "Is that what you want? Would you want to never work or try anything because someone already did everything for you?"

I would HATE that.

I look back over my life and i am not proud or happy about any part of it where I was pampered. But I am proud when I accomplished things.

My H is always very depressed when he talks. I would rather be proud than depressed. I wont help him. I cant help him with his depression, but I can give him the opportunity to feel proud.

Merry Christmas H. You don't know it now, but I am giving you a gift or pride, like you have given me the gift of learning how to raise three kids solo.