Back on these forums again 4

[mutatio]

Mona, your husband needs to learn the consequences of his choices and behavior. If you bail him out he will never learn, never step up and always depend on you. Don't feed the stray animal at the back door unless you want him to come back.

I agree with job about giving the kids a heads up, it will soften the blow if they know before hand and understand there are money issues.

I think you doing a great job with work, school and as a mom. Please don't sell yourself short, some lucky guy is going to be so happy to be your friend. Find a good man who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Do not settle for crumbs, you deserve a banquet. Be well

[Mona52]

((((Judy))))

I just had a strong urge to SAVE him so I ran here and you pulled me through! Not gonna do it, not gonna do it.... You are right, of course. job gave me the words to give to the kids so they dont feel bad. he|| I bet I can say it in a way where they actually end up pitying the jerk. "Daddy feels bad but he just cannot afford it right now." Blah... jerk!

I will tell you what I am watching, but it might have sex, drugs and inappropriate language, so dont blame me if you get offended. Personally, I cant be offended... Entourage on HBO

I will tell you why I like it. I am up to season 2 and I only realized right now why I like it so darn much. The writers write the show so something bad is happening. It is so bad that huge careers will be ruined. Just when things cant possibly get worse, things get so much worse. These guys just kinda live their lives as normal when the worst or the worst can happen.

Then, someone just relaxes and emotionally lets go of the problem and magically the perfect solution appears to save the day.

And mixed in with all of that is the funniest jokes these guys play on each other.

Makes my night better anyway, and that is always a good thing.

[Mona52]

Mona, your husband needs to learn the consequences of his choices and behavior. If you bail him out he will never learn, never step up and always depend on you. Don't feed the stray animal at the back door unless you want him to come back.

I agree with job about giving the kids a heads up, it will soften the blow if they know before hand and understand there are money issues.

I think you doing a great job with work, school and as a mom. Please don't sell yourself short, some lucky guy is going to be so happy to be your friend. Find a good man who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Do not settle for crumbs, you deserve a banquet. Be well

Heard loud and clear. I am not going to lie. Every 5 minutes maximum, my mind starts screaming for me to save him. I only have to get through today and tomorrow. It is possible I am gonna run here every five minutes! HA! I dont care. I am going to do whatever it takes not to save him.

I will not settle for any man. I know what I want. I am beginning to see what I have to offer, and what I deserve in return for what I give. My pecan pie alone is worth a man who at least has a steady job

[Di-mond]

Mona,

I spent some time with my H this week. I know he's broke and I know he's struggling financially. I paid for myself and my daughter when we went to the movies and then out for dinner. His mom paid for him and herself.

I know how hard it was for you not to swoop in and rescue your H. I still struggle with that all the time. It's the nurturing instinct in us that wants to take care of them. I'm very proud of you for staying strong.

[Mona52]

I am going to tear my H apart here so I see clearly why any normal sane person would not rush to 'help' someone after being treated like this.

Warning, this is nothing but a pure, unfiltered rant about what a jerk he is and poor me, poor me.

While living at the house, we were desperate for cash to pay the rent. This was during 2015, not too long ago. H only worked a total of 2 days in 2 weeks. I believe he COULD have worked more, but chose not to. He wanted to play video games all day and night. Then he went out and purchased a $300.00 watch. I was so angry, but I did not say anything. There was no point. He never hears me when I talk.

I stayed up 3 nights straight and just flat out wrote article after article to sell to content mills online to earn more cash. He never came to bed so he had no idea.

2 days later he tells me his sister in NYC is in the hospital, dying. 2 weeks ago his brother was in the hospital for a triple bypass in NYC. I had to give him approximately $300 for each trip and I could not say no because they were dying.

Then I saw the pictures on FB of my H at a carnival on a ride with his brother.... the day after triple bypass?

Then I recently found out his trips to NY were a cover. He briefly stopped to see family, but then drove to OW.

Me and the kids were broke, my whole paycheck was just not enough to cover all of the expenses. He was spending double what he was bringing in. He takes the precious pennies we do have and goes on a trip to have an A.

Fast forward. All he wants is a D. Looking back, I did nothing to warrant this. I was abundantly open and available when he did decide to come to bed. I cooked his fav meals, I supported him when he needed anything. He sent me text messages every day saying he loved me sooo much. Even the day before I kicked him out he sent one.

The house was not clean. I will accept partial responsibility for that, but I have been busy and they easily could have done more as well.

Why would anyone in their right mind help him? By helping him, I am permitting him to treat me like dirt.

I am not helping him.

[ARose]

Mona, I wouldn't help him either. Go ahead and vent. Get it out. And then when you get it out, maybe you can do something nice for yourself?

I am taking a nap.

[Mona52]

OMG Fo.2 I am stupid!!! It is you!!!!! I found you

Love the new superhero disguise

Since I am at work and cant nap, I am going to go on a mini mind vacation today. That will be something very nice for myself. I will either invite Brad Pitt from Ocean's Eleven or Johnny Depp from Pirate of the Caribbean. (Yeah, Capt Jack is the clear winner)

Might as well join him on his boat then...

I will meet him after a quick update

[Mona52]

My boss just came into my office. She turned my eval into my VP and she rejected it. She made my boss raise the ratings in a few areas before she would sign. HA! I thought the eval was perfectly fine, better than other people anyway. Still it is a nice way to end the year.

Still holding strong with H. I am not sure yet that I wont cave, but I am 100% sure that I am gonna try like crazy to not cave. I am using the strongest mind distraction I can possibly use. And I have some doosies to keep me distracted. It is working so far. Plus I am coming here and re-reading what I need to NOT cave.

The hard part is my mind loves puzzles. And it keeps working out solutions that are free and PERFECT. Like, my S12 would die if my H would take him to go play b-ball. My H could give him a coupon for one free hour on the courts at the park 1 minute away...

STOP STOP STOP

Any solution from me is BAD BAD BAD. &*%$%%& him, he can do this himself. Time to run to my mental distraction.

[ARose]

Congrats Mona! I am glad you realized who I am! I have always wanted to ask you why you are going to DB until March 21 2017 and that is it. What is significant about that date?

And Johnny Depp???? You can do better than him! Something about guys in eye makeup creeps me out. LOL.

[Mona52]

If you just saw what he can do, you would change your mind

I picked March 21, 2017 because Last time I DB'ed for 3 years. This time I am only giving him half that amount of time.

I know he cant go by my timeline. I am not putting a date down to control him. I am putting a date down to control myself.