The kids called the other day and it went to my voicemail. They did not hang up so about 2 minutes of recording took place. WW can be heard making a disparaging remark about me to the kids. Its sad. I hope she can find peace one day.
It takes a really strong person to hear something like that, and then be able to wish her peace.
FWIW, sometimes when one parent says bad things about the other parent, instead of turning the kids against him.......it does the opposite.
Some day it will all come out in the wash.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!