LBH w/ a WXW after the D - now what

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Thanks Sandi,
It's rough but not really any different than before the D finalized. She was continuing on with her A's prior to the D day and acting as if she wasn't married anyway. I have to refi the house and get HELOC to pay her her half of the equity. She needs the money in order to be able to move somewhere. I've agreed to allow her to stay until 7 days after the HELOC closes. 1st week in January will be the earliest. Boo!
The biggest differences are that I made plans for Saturday night, told her I would be getting an overnight sitter for D4 and asked if she wanted to keep D4 ( because we have right of first refusal). She said she wanted to keep her. A couple days later she asked what time I would be back on Sunday. I said 11. She said no it's your weekend you'll be back by 9. I said no and left the room. A couple minutes later she said again that it was my weekend and she had plans sunday so I would need to be back by 9. I ignored her and moved on. I then made arrangements for D4 to go to another friends house on sunday morning. I told her these arrangements and that I would be picking up D4 from there. Turns out she didn't drop off D4 until noon. Obviously lying about sunday morning plans and still trying to manipulate and control me.
When she returned home on Sunday night at 7 I walked by her in the kitchen as if she wasn't there sat on the couch and turned on the football game. She eventually went upstairs and to bed.
Monday night I got home very late. No contact
Tuesday night I got home about 10. D4 was asking about sleeping in the basement, WXW (Wayward X Wife) asked us not to. I suspect her parents may be coming to town and she doesn't want to wash the sheets. I didn't have any intention of sleeping down there anyway and said so.
This morning she began asking about some bills. I told her I didn't have time for it and was leaving for work. She eventually texted. She said the water bill was paid on the 9th and I had texted her it was late. I said "sorry if I said the water bill was late. I meant the HOA." She said "you did say the HOA. I'm sorry."
Every apology from her is a big step. Who knows......if she takes enough big steps over the coming years I may be willing to get back on this crazy train. But right now, I am not.