Can't believe how very similar our situations are. It's unbelievable. Like you I used to do everything and now I can see why H didn't feel wanted or appreciated. I'd ask him to do something for me but it'd take him ages to do, so in the end I'd end up doing it. I also remember only pointing out at what he was doing wrong, not what he was doing right. Now I know I'll forever regret this. If only I had known about all the beautiful books out there, I don't think I'll be in this situation.
I'm no longer doing things for H, he still gets his mail send here, so I send it back to sender! Like you H is living with OW, hasn't told our kids about her, so he has nowhere to take them! When I don't see him, I'm happy and fine. It's when he is around that my head spins round and doesn't stop. I don't want to stop him from seeing his kids, but to heal better less contact for me would make such a huge difference.
Meet a new friend today, who unfortunately was in the position as me. What she said is that the problems lie with H not me. At the moment everything is rosy with OW, but it won't last and that I'm better off without him. I so wish that she was right, but I don't really see H coming back to me. His actions are not showing any signs of him coming towards me!
It has been 9 months, no I wonder if I really love him or if I miss having the company of someone. I know I'm quite attractive, but I feel ugly ( my H is living with OW, so I must be ugly), and mainly I feel that I don't have anything to offer to someone. I was dreading the holidays as when at work I focus on my job, now I have got too much time on my hand!
