He is gay. Is it no different then my W talking to her best friend girlfriend? The problem is W and I relationship, she is giving him her best and me the rest.
Well, he may be gay.........but she's not. Do you not see? For him, it may be like two girlfriends sharing, but for her........she sees him in another light. In fact, some women would be attracted, simply b/c they would see it as a challenge.
What I have been trying to tell you is that you seem to think there is no danger b/c the OM is gay. It's not about him. It is about your WW. And, if/when the gay neighbor rejects her, she'll be looking for OM #2.
The problem was in the M, before the neighbor ever moved next door. It just magnified after he became friends with your W.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
