" I have researched this by talking to people who divorced and friends whose parents divorced"... Yeah, so work on the marriage in a way that actually works. MIL actually said "divorce is common nowadays, it's not like it used to be. Sometimes it's for the best ". Then gave me advice on how to be a better wife lol.
So sad. I think my H's new work colleagues encouraged him that D was ok and the answer to all his problems, including OW. I think this really helped propel things last spring. There was/is an older, mother-like figure who took him under her wings. He talked about how she said D is not necessarily a bad thing and everyone could be buddy buddy post D.
I know I was the one that ultimately filed, but I still wonder sometimes if it was the best step. When I did, everyone was very encouraging and said was the best/ onIy answer. Life would be better and it would be the answer to all my problems. Not one person questioned my judgement, but then again, I was dealing with a cheater who continued to bring OW into my home against my wishes. That makes it hard to see a different way forward.
No, regardless, of who files, it still stinks and it did not have to be the answer.
Oh, and I agree that the kids should only get H present.
Last edited by BT13; 12/23/1501:10 PM.
Me: 42 H: 40 M: 12 H moved out - 8/2015 I filed - 8/2015
