Which idiot on this forum invited H to come spend time at home with the kids on Christmas?
This idiot!!! I don't know wtf I was thinking, other than the kids are so darned sad, and H hasn't been making much of an effort to see them, since they upset him by being unhappy with his actions.
The kids are so happy dad is coming, I can hardly back out now. Things I did right: I invited him to come over a good hour after the kids are already here. I set a time limit. I made sure he knew that the kids wanted to see him, the invitation was not for me.
I hate that I'm so kind sometimes. I just felt like it was the right thing to do, by my measuring stick of how I hope others will treat me. This man has been so cruel to me - and how do I respond? I invite him over for Christmas!
It's a done deal at this point. The kids are happy, and that was what I hoped to achieve. It will be the last time I extend an invitation, though. I plan to make him feel like a guest - no helping me, no efforts to play the host.
I plan to stay busy and far away from H. It's only for 2 hours, so I can manage that long with plenty of others in the house. I'm still shaking my head at myself, though. How is he going to experience not being part of the family with me inviting him over? Argh!At least he'll have to see me in action, with the kids, and get a bird's eye view of just what he is giving up.
No more invitations from me, I swear. New Year's Eve will be the worst. Last year, he gave me a kiss that knocked my socks off. This year...I don't think I should borrow trouble by thinking about that yet. I'll probably be right here, posting. Probably the smartest thing for me to do.
