t12 Not have any obsessive thoughts about fantasizes or anything like that. That will not be a problem. I agree the changes are for myself. I would never lie to her again. (that was the issue, that I did it behind her back, and I feel guilty about that). The biggest problem is that I lost her trust. And I had always considered myself trustworthy. Which I think is part of it. I have always been honest and tried to be the best person. Our relationship was really good. We were very compatible and never fought until the end. And it was me fighting to save the marriage. It is not like I needed a major overhaul of myself. It's just that I screwed up on this one issue. There are some other things that bothered her. I would always run late. And she felt she had to wait on me. Well that has been a big issue I have been correcting. That if in relationship with her or someone else, that will not be a problem. Thanks.
