It's hard to explain what I was feeling, so I hope it makes sense. Sounds like you get it...I didn't want H romantically, in fact I was very distant. Nonetheless, he was a HUGE comfort to me. I needed my family and I knew it. Even though, I could not figure out why I felt so confused and distant from them.
Seems I feel that way again about H, different circumstances this time though! I crave my family unit, it is what keeps me standing. Right now, it's not about H, it's about the unit. I miss that comfort so much. May be why I spin when we all spend time together, I get scared to get my hopes up....
You sound to be getting rebalanced Cali. I like to hear about the Cali, doing his thing! If I am anywhere close with where W is at, just be there for her, where she can see you, not much more right now. I believe it will pay off.
Merry Christmas
Me 48 H 46 S 11 M 2004 BD 8/13 H moved out 2/15 -live in the present, enjoy the beauty around and within you, explore your new future-