Not according to my husband and MIL. They had no foresight. I mentioned that I should have been named Cassandra. I had tried to discuss this with them and was met with so much resistance, the big argument from husband being "it is better for the kids to not be around a dysfunctional marriage. I have researched this by talking to people who divorced and friends whose parents divorced"... Yeah, so work on the marriage in a way that actually works. MIL actually said "divorce is common nowadays, it's not like it used to be. Sometimes it's for the best ". Then gave me advice on how to be a better wife lol.
Yeah, it's amazing how you can skew statistics to get them to support whatever you want. It reminds me of the joke about a statistician that drown in a river that was 'on average' two feet deep.
As for the bold, to me that's like telling someone who's child was killed by someone texting and driving that, 'hey, texting and driving is common, this isn't 1990 anymore, sometimes it's nice to be able to 'lol' in a timely way to a good cat meme...'. Seriously, as soon as someone says something like that I know there isn't any reason to reply, because we're so far apart, she wouldn't even be looking at the real me, she'd be looking at the me from 12 minutes ago and the light is only reaching her now.
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A big part of me wants things to be very hard for them, so they understand the true devastation of a decision that was made when we were living in a situation where we had no privacy and after some pretty stressful health crises. But I also want to make sure my kids are not traumatized.
We all share this fantasy and it surfaces periodically. The idea that someday they rue the day they destroyed their family. Just don't act on it. At least without an iron clad alibi...;)
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
