Not according to my husband and MIL. They had no foresight. I mentioned that I should have been named Cassandra. I had tried to discuss this with them and was met with so much resistance, the big argument from husband being "it is better for the kids to not be around a dysfunctional marriage. I have researched this by talking to people who divorced and friends whose parents divorced"... Yeah, so work on the marriage in a way that actually works. MIL actually said "divorce is common nowadays, it's not like it used to be. Sometimes it's for the best ". Then gave me advice on how to be a better wife lol.
A big part of me wants things to be very hard for them, so they understand the true devastation of a decision that was made when we were living in a situation where we had no privacy and after some pretty stressful health crises. But I also want to make sure my kids are not traumatized.
I did do a craft project with them for dads birthday and then gave him framed photo of kids. Maybe will try the same for Christmas. I'm sure husband would give them a good reaction. He is a good father when he is with them.
I have not said anything bad about husband, but have not said anything good either. I don't want to condone his behavior because I don't want them repeating this cycle
Me: 42 H: 43 Twins age 5 Physically Separated 7/2015
