Taking back control of my life 3

[shotgun]

Anna25 and Rouky it is always amazing to me to recognize the similarities in all of our situations. I could take the words of your husbands and insert my wife in their place and the picture would be identical to mine. I wish there was a psychologist who could chime in on this one. Every story is the same. These WAS all say the same things and do the same things. They all revert to a child like existence and relive their teenage years. Sadly the person in the relationship who has the maturity must clean up after the train wreck. I don't know why it is that the good people like us have to deal with the mess created by these unfortunate souls.

Rouky I wish that you could stop thinking about your husband and the other woman as it only serves to drain your spirit. I wish so much that you had family or a support group there for you. You do have me and the rest of the DB family but it isn't exactly the same. Maybe you can try to start small and try to focus on something else other than your husband for a few hours and then maybe a day or a few days. Maybe think about me and how much fun we have had here and how much fun we would have if we lived in the same neighborhood. I don't know why but so long ago when you said that you would share a drink with me someday it initiated a bit of healing that continues to improve. There are good people out there and we will find someone who loves us and someone we love but we have to heal first and be open to it.

I hope that Christmas is wonderful for you and your children and I hope that you can focus on the season and find a little peace each day and a distraction from your pain. You are special and you are loved and you will be OK. Hang in there and know that I think about you every day and will be here for you until you have made it through this process. Keep doing the hard work with your therapist and take a few minutes each day to think about what she says. Be safe my friend and you are always in my prayers!