I'm a fan in having the kids get presents for their dad. Take them out, get them excited, talk about what he likes, and help them pick out and buy fun gifts. Get them wrapped, make it an activity.
Number one, H will know you played a role, but you didn't give him anything directly. It will be from the kids, which is safe, neutral, non-invasive, and impossible to refuse.
Number two, maybe, just maybe, it will make the kids more excited to go see their dad. If you are afraid that H won't give the kids any reaction and will disappoint them you could maybe mention to H (hey, the kids worked hard to pick out presents for you and I know they're afraid you won't like them, just FYI if you can act surprised and excited I know they'd love it). If not then let the chips fall where they will.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
